Pastor, I'm Not Okay

What happens when someone finally finds the courage to say, “Pastor, I'm not okay”?

Not every struggle can be answered with another prayer, another Scripture or an instruction to have more faith.

Pastor, I'm Not Okay is a practical, compassionate guide for church leaders and the people who turn to them for support.

Written by Shelly-Ann Shaw, founder of The Depression Chronicles, this book explores the conversations churches cannot afford to avoid, including depression, anxiety, grief, trauma, suicidal thoughts, abuse, spiritual struggles and the mental-health needs of children and teenagers.

For pastors, elders and ministry leaders, it offers guidance on listening, recognising warning signs, responding safely, protecting confidentiality and connecting people with appropriate professional support.

For individuals who are struggling, it offers reassurance, practical language for difficult conversations and ways to seek help without feeling that their faith is being put on trial.

Featuring relatable church scenarios, practical exercises, conversation examples, biblical reflections and useful response tools, this is a resource designed to be read, revisited and put into practice.

Because when someone says, “I'm not okay,” what happens next matters.

Inside the book

27 chapters across two parts, with church scenarios, reflection activities, response guidance, safeguarding considerations and referral tools.

This is an educational resource, not a substitute for qualified professional care, emergency response or local safeguarding procedures.